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I'm constantly stunned how mean young girls can be to each other (or for that matter, adult women as well).
Middle school, for the most part, seems to be ground zero for this ugly stage of life. You know it and I know it. It's the main reason I've always said "There isn't enough money in the world to get me back into Middle school"! Why has it become acceptable to allow these girls to behave this way? The gossip, the ugly behavior towards one another, the verbal/physical abuse?
WHERE ARE THE PARENTS????
Do you not see your little precious spouting ugliness or spreading vicious rumors? Are you so blind that you don't realize your kid is a bully?
I know it's hard. Most of the time, the kids parents are friends(ly) with each other and that just makes the whole thing harder. But what is more important? Your friendship or your child's well being?
We see so much of this in the media that I find it hard to fathom the "head in the sand" attitude so many of my peers take on this issue!
I realize that at this age, for the most part the kids have to start learning to stand up for themselves. But, there is a time for parents to step in a say enough is enough!
P.S. - I'm amending this a bit. This isn't just a "girl thing", I know boys go thru their own version of it too - but girls are what I have and deal with, so I tend to have that tunnel vision!~
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I agree. I am dreading when LB has to go to middle school next year. *sigh* She is a pretty tough cookie, but I am just worried for her.
Little T goes to middle school this year. *Heavy sigh*
We just finished our first round of middle school, and will be entering high school next month!
I honestly don't know which is worse. I think middle school because the hormones are surging.
Unfortunately today's society caters to the parents with the attitude of: I'm too busy doing (fill in the blank) to learn who my child is and what they are doing; and my least favorite of them all: kids will be kids/their self esteem is too great to discipline them.
It's sad. Many parents today are not doing their job.
I totally agree with you...the parents are the problem. Luckily, my daughter was able to edit her friends accordingly. I learned a lot from her....
I could never do it again...these young kids deal with so much more than what we went through and I feel for them.
I think you are right. The majority of the time, it is the parents that are the problem.
Very good post, Trac. My son and daughter-in-law in Texas have two daughters (15 snd 12).. They are constantly in communication with their girls ---and cannot believe what other kids their girls' ages are allowed to do. You are right: Where ARE the parents???? So many of these kids have no guidance, no boundaries, no rules, no love ---and are just left on their own. Sad isn't it????
My son won't allow his girls to have a MySpace or Facebook page because the kids are all so MEAN to each other in print. Scary!!!!!
Hang in there with your girls--and watch their every move. Tough love is the answer when they are teens. They'll thank you for it when they are older.
Hugs,
Betsy
You have spoken from my heart. It is so sad to see the cruelty among teens these days. Far more worse than in our days. Parents really should be more concerned about this important matter. We wouldn't want it to become worse. Have a great weekend. Thank you for the comforting words on my blog :). It means a lot to me.
I have had to deal with this in the past. I chose to confront the mother- I was very polite and tried to remain calm.
Ultimately, we never spoke again but I will never regret what I did.
There is way too much masogyny in this world and it will only change by example.
I absolutely HATED middle school, and I dread the day my little girl has to enter that war zone.
She will be going into 5th grade next year, so not too much longer.
sigh...
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